Thou shalt not be lonely

     There are those days when I wish I was married and had a helpmate. I go through the scene in my head, he could wash my car, take over finances, unclog the toilet and just be there for ME. After all of this runs through my feeble mind, I start to ask myself these questions; What if he wasn't God's plan for my life just yet? What if he didn't get along with my kiddos? What if he didn't approve of the way I am raising my kiddos? Then reality sets in and contentedness comes back and I praise God for my life and children. If I would have stepped outside the realm of God's will and got married my children would have suffered and I wouldn't have the closeness I have with them. I would not be able to bear that sin in my life.
 
     Praise God! Thou shalt not get lonely is not the 11th commandment! We all get lonely and what could be worse than a single gal getting lonely? A married gal getting lonely, that is what I always tell myself. Marriage is not a cure all for loneliness. Marriage brings with it a whole lot more challenges and struggles by adding another personality into the family domain. Don't get me wrong, one day I would like to be married and have a promise for God that it will happen, but I will wait for the guy God chooses for me and not venture out on my own. I will choose to be content.

     I remember one Valentines Day when my kiddos where very young and most of my friends were talking about what they will or got from their hubbies. I was lonely and feeling left out and I decided right then that my children will be my Valentines. The kiddos were at my moms and I decorated the house with Valentines. I must have signed 100 Valentines and taped them on walls, windows, mirrors and doors! When my kiddos walked into the house they were first puzzled and then they saw To Dori and To Justin and they ran around the house grabbing all of their cards. They were helping each other and telling the other where their cards were. It was so much fum to see their excitement! I was no longer lonely because I have 2 Valentines that would never leave me and never forsake me!!

     Being lonely is just part of life and we don't have to be like that for long periods of time. I encourage you that when ever you do feel lonely, do something unexpected for your children and see the excitement on their faces. It doesn't need to cost money. Write them letters, have a little scavenger hunt in your house, take them to the park and anything else you normally don't do every day. The smiles on your children's faces when you surprise them is priceless. The loneliness will go and joy and an abundance of love will fill the void!!

1Jo 5:2

By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God, and keep his commandments.